5 Ways to Increase Your Likeability Factor as a Leader


Even though as a leader your goals may not specifically be to increase your own personal likeability, there is a correlation between how much an individual is liked and how successful they are. Most significantly, your likeability increases your ability to influence and connect with others. Here are some avenues to increase your own personal likeability factor.


Put others at ease. If someone mispronounces a …Read More

3 Stupid Things an Effective Leader Should Never Say

As part of your effective leadership skills practice, be mindful of what not to say. These phrases are to be avoided at all costs — and here’s why.


“Don’t take this personally.” How else could someone possibly take that comment, delivered before a critique of her own work? If the work of a particular department needs addressing, then address the department (not one individual), and …Read More

Public Speaking Tips – 7 Effective Ways to Lead Your Audience from Point A to Point B

Transitions within a presentation are pivotal moments, opportunities to guide your audience to a new idea or avenues to lose their attention or break their stream of thought. A polished presenter is well aware of the importance of smooth transitions.


Using “first” or “next” to lead into your next point does not offer a connection of the topics in your listeners’ mind. Rather, to bring continuity …Read More

How to Open Closed Minds

Social Security reform, Medicare reform, The Affordable Care Act, the entitlement society, international spying, stem-cell research, global warming, the energy policy:   It seems that everyone has an opinion about these issues, and few want to change it.
A reader wrote to me recently from Pakistan:  “How can we open closed minds?  I have a person who does not want to listen to any arguments or …Read More

10 Communication Resolutions for the New Year

Many people start a new year by focusing on makeovers:  New exercise program.  Better eating habits.  More organized work space.  Improved strategic planning.  Paying off debt.  Whatever your list looks like, I’m guessing that one item doesn’t appear there:  “Add new communication tools.”

Why?  Two reasons:  1) Most people consider themselves better-than-average communicators. 2)  As one strategist recently mentioned, “Many executives themselves don’t really understand the …Read More

Communicating Holiday Messages to Your Loved Ones

Do you simply say, “Merry Christmas,” “Happy Hanukkah,” “Happy Holidays,” or  maybe just “Have a safe trip and a wonderful weekend with your family and friends” when it comes to an emotional time during the holidays, . . . at the anniversary of a loved one’s passing, . . . or at the milestone of some achievement like graduation?

At sentimental seasons and situations, many people …Read More

5 Reasons Strong Leaders Admit When They’re Wrong

“We had no control over that project in our department.”  “Upper management made those decisions.”  “Competitors forced us into those arrangements.” “Those policies are set by the government/industry regulators/committee.” “If it were my decision, I’d handle it differently.”  “I wasn’t given a say in the matter.”
Shirkers suffer credibility gaps.  Yet, when the tough questions are raised, these responses roar back:
“I had no knowledge of the …Read More

Have You Phoned Your Folks Today?

No matter your age, the parental link can nourish your path for life. If your parents are still living, have you spoken with them today to ask what’s on their mind and to include them in your world?

With only the occasional exception, from wherever I am in the country, I’ve phoned my mom and dad every evening for the past 25 years.  The conversations are …Read More

6 Communication Lessons From Congress, ObamaCare, NSA Spying, and the Govt Shutdown

Hearing and watching TV news in the background as I dress for work every morning reminds me of soap operas that I occasionally tuned in on a sick day from school as a teenager:  surprise revelations, harsh words, high drama, despicable characters, and never-ending storylines.

The least we can do is learn by watching the performers on our TV screens every day:

Credibility can be dashed in …Read More

Stop Motor-Mouths Before They Wreck Your Meeting Or Party

It started out as a great dinner aboard a cruise ship even though all six of us gathered around the table had never met.  I take that back: There were alliances.  My husband and I.   We’d met the other married couple briefly the evening before. And the other two women who joined us were traveling together with a group from Australia.

“Mind if we join you,” …Read More